The Antidotal Wisdom Age

Wisdom, motivational and perceived idealism dominate my Instagram, Facebook and Twitter timelines by way of quotes and advice.

Personally I enjoy it all – the variety offered by social media posts! I prefer to see words that have the affect of pushing me in the direction of reflecting positively over negative energies attached to certain instances that occur or the display of beautiful scenic photos taken of places around the world (especially as I am not a very good tourist lol) than mere ‘selfies’ and a constant show of items owned (materialism)…*yawns*😴

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At times events occur in life and all it takes is a look at one of my timelines and there it is a quote I can relate to word for word. It is almost too much of a coincidence and at the same time therapeutic. Hence, in a bid to not forget such powerful words in a rush I save the image bearing the quote, constantly requiring me to delete applications from my smartphone. As of today images mostly wisdom quotes take up a staggering 2.2gb of my phone memory *eek* 😣

Life is shrouded in mystery – the most mysterious is interaction with fellow human beings of which most of my favourite quotes relate too.

My top 5 wisdom filled quotes so far:

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This hit me like a ton of bricks after having a very deep conversation with my husband, I hopped onto Instagram and there is was – ready for my double tap!

I had just revealed to my better half how bruised I was when I reflected on recent occurrences in my life and he instilled the most comforting words in me. In summary he advised me not to expect much from an individual who has already shown their true colours – he further stated that once you understand the behaviours and attitudes of people then expectations should equalise or better still no expectations should exist at all!

With expectations extremely low or in extreme cases non-existent there will be no space within you for anger and hurt when they decide to reveal their colours again – it will all of a sudden become an easy task to accept them for who they really are and the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life!

…the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life! – LavergneAiko™

I must admit it was a lot to swallow but the truth at its best always makes one shiver – having high expectations of any individual especially one who has given you a reason to deal with them on a ‘once bitten, twice shy’ basis, should not have additional expectations laid on their shoulders by you, in a twisted way it is pretty unfair for that individual – it is also a waste of resources and most precious of all – your time.

If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed – Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

A life that is burdened with expectations is a heavy life. Its fruit is sorrow and disappointment -DougLas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

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Everyone always has an opinion – be it asked for or just thrown in your face. The way I deal with such people who are constantly over-opinionated about my life is to ignore them and allow their words to float far far away from my consciousness – and into a pile of waste where their words will feel a little more comfortable. This way ensures that the power of their words are diminished immediately and I am not distracted from the path God has laid me on.

Accepting uninvited opinions especially from individuals who in actuality are quite unconcerned about your wellbeing – is similar to allowing a cobra to sink its venomous teeth into your forearm because it asked you ever so nicely for your permission! Once the venom hits you internally you are the one to deal with the results of your stupidity not the culprit – same goes for careless opinions, accepting them only turns your life upside down not theirs. Remember an opinion is only “a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty” (dictionary.com) so imagine accepting such risky information from just any person *disaster* – if opinions must be given you should entrust such privileges only to persons in your life who you trust and believe their intentions are in the right place!

Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – LavergneAiko™

You cannot filter another’s mouth – but you can definitely filter how you receive the information shared. Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – remember that! Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course!

Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course! – Lavergneaiko™

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Keeping your intentions and thoughts towards others pure assists greatly in creating a beautiful heart within you! No one is perfect – but we must not fall behind the screens of jealousy and envy, or living in the hope of seeing another not prosper. Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness.

Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness – LavergneAiko™

Money may have the capability to maintain you physically for the outside eye to feast on – however it is unable to penetrate and sustain our internal being when compared to a good sense of being linked to having good intentions for others. Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – powerful stuff!

Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – LavergneAiko™

When one possesses a beautiful heart life becomes even more colourful and exciting, their outer being positively radiates what they feel within themselves. Sharing in another’s happiness will excite you and in the same breathe open doors for the receiving of your own specialised blessings from above.

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind – Anon

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This makes for a perfect analogy! If flowers competed with their budding neighbours we would be forced to experience very pitiful looking flowerbeds. The aroma, the collaboration of vivid colours would all be poisoned by the struggle leaving only a few to rise and the majority to wither away. A flower must concentrate wholly on its development to radiate and at the same time stay healthy and supportive as to not contaminate and unbalance its neighbours. This is teamwork at its best during the winter months – resulting in united beauty in the summer!

We as humans need to embrace such principles – if you are competing with an individual your attention is automatically divided between yourself and this person – your true potential will always remain overshadowed by what the next person is doing. You are unable to blossom and in doing so attempt to distract others around you. A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

Do not contaminate yourself and your surroundings with a spirit of competition – you loose out on so much personal and spiritual growth and in turn become resentful when the individual you consider a rival continuously succeeds in life while you stand in the sidelines plotting your next unsuccessful move.

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally -LavergneAiko™

We must remember that this earth will fade away and our ultimate goal is meeting God one on one – utilise your energies ensuring both you and your fellow person are not blown away like chaff in the wind. I believe that this goal is our number one priority when compared to what you can gain on earth involving sacrificing your inner peace to maintain the results.

Indeed their prosperity is not in their hand; The counsel of the wicked is far from me.

They are like straw before the wind, And like chaff that a storm carries away. (Job 21:16, 18 NKJV)

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally!

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Friendship is not a numbers game – one could have 50 friends and feel like the loneliest person alive or have relationships dating back 50 years and have absolutely nothing to show.

Friendship is not an easy title to bestow on a person based on numbers – I remember posting a comment under a youtube video discussing on the topic of friendship (posted below).

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In recent times I have noticed a very calculated display of loyalty that continues to baffle me to the bones. Loyalty is a demonstration of fidelity to a person, the following falls under the umbrella of fidelity:

a. Attachment
b. Dependability
c. Faith
d. Integrity
e. Reliability
f. True – heartedness
g. Trustworthiness

The above listed may overlap in meaning, however my aim is to bring to light the heavy duty nature of loyalty – it is not as subtle as most consider it.

…the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise – LavergneAiko™

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life. If one is unable to provide their friend with support and encouragement during the good times of their lives and instead takes up residence in the background, fails to share in one’s happiness or totally shade the joy in a friend’s life – the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise.

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life – LavergneAiko™

Another form of an individual’s lack of loyalty is the typical – “you were not here for me during the times I needed you the most” (the bad times). As this is the most common and experienced episodes of friendship breakdown – I will not elaborate on it further.

Know your friends not by their numbers but by the value you both as a team impact on each other’s lives – LavergneAiko™

Dangle the word ‘friend’ loosely – individuals may even go as far to manipulate you with the fact they have known you for x amount of years therefore their behaviour tallies up – or in their small minds they have a warped belief that their loyalty still stands after their assistance through your bad times so why should their absence during the good times make a difference. Yes we live in the strangest of times.

You cannot force anyone to care about you – LavergneAiko™

Know your friends not by their numbers or accumulation of years but by the value you both as a team have impacted on each other’s lives.

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I am Back!!!

Heeeeey I am back – it has been a long hiatus for me and a very interesting one too – the long distance series will be revived and is first on my list —- I have so much to share with you all!

Thanks for your patience!!!

Love as deep as the Ocean!

Love as deep as the Ocean!

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beauty!

beauty!

Hey all,

The Long distance series 2011 has not been forgotten nor ignored. It shall continue as promised. This blog is forever active although posts come at random intervals, I write when hit with an inspirational message though I tend to note my thoughts in my memo pad. Maybe I’ll condition myself to write straight σn too here, who knows!!!

Thanks for the support and loyal following!!! 🙂

Frustration

Frustration: a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems. (Dictionary.com)

When you can not explain your actions, or the words that you say; the above is normally the case!

Keep your issues resolved – speak to someone who will listen!

♥ ℓavergnéaiko™

Is Trust a curse?

Trust exists!

Trust exists!

Trust…the core of every relationship we form in life, no matter how small we deposit trust in a relationship of any kind. Trust is the mechanism that allows us to exist alongside someone that we refer to as a friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, mother/father, brother/sister.

Trust has a way of becoming a chore…and the level of trust brings out the addict in us all. We end up trusting so much that the mere break of that trust is capable of creating a hell in us.

Trust and make sure you trust well…

But how would one know who is worth depositing such trust into…what happens when your trust is withheld from you, when the relationship ends…and you can never recover that lost investment. Does that not mean that the next time you trust is not really trust in its fullest…

They say that a couple will not stand without trust…that I agree with…however what happens when you constantly deposit this trust and have no way of retrieving it back and instead of fighting to gain it back you empty your reserves on this one person…

I believe trust is a formula that sets high standards for fallible humans…and therefore incredible heart ache and torture. why waste your time trusting a human being who is born to sin…born to put themselves first and prone to make mistakes that benefit themselves.

Isn’t it better to trust with limits…trust but never deposit, trust and keep your trust reserve full…how do you do that…? You achieve this by trusting in yourself and in this trusting your decisions. Examples range from trusting yourself for choosing to be in this relationship, for taking up the offer at your current place of work, living and settling in the country you now call home, waking up in the morning and wearing the shoes on your feet…throw the trust back at yourself…human beings are not worth our trust…only God…we need to place our trust in an undying unconditional love that has stayed by us through thick and thin..and that is the love of God Almighty…He allows us to trust Him with miraculous results…human beings are incapable of this so why bother with them?

However with all the above in mind, the problem at hand is that we have to trust to maintain a certain degree of sanity…so what should we do…

Trust in limits, be stingy with your trust, treat it like precious gems that cannot be deformed- so its value is protected…deposit only when ΰ expect returns…do not treat trust as a free for all reward, for it has its prestige…for trust is a difficult puzzle to solve once pieces have been ripped apart.

Stay sane and trust well!

P.s some one out there is worth your trust…it will come naturally to you! If your battle constantly to trust an individual…then maybe that person never deserved your trust in the first place.

“All human beings are fallible do not restrict one with your insecurities” LavergneAiko, 2011

“Love is a diamond encrusted with trust” LavergneAiko, 2010

♥ ℓä̤̣̇vergné

“The chicken is king in his nest: as the Lion is king of his Jungle…”

Be bold Who cares

Be bold Who cares

Everyone has an appointed place in life…and where one is appointed, respect befalls them almost automatically…

No matter the size of your empire, your car, your house, your bank account…it is big enough to be your very own Kingdom…your own shrine of joy…

Do not pay attention to the boasting of others, for as they boast you can also…joy is not made up of numbers but of real raw emotion…

Look at what you have today and allow the feeling of appreciation to overcome you…

You have your own kingdom to reign supreme over…as the chicken humbly reigns over its nest equally the lion reigns supreme over his jungle…Be bold in your situation…

♥ ℓä̤̣̇vergné