***Update*** Long Distance Relationship series 

Hi all,
I know it has taken a while since I announced the compliation of my popular Long Distance Relationship series into a mini self guide – I do however have a valid reason! 

In between promising to release a mini guide and now, I was blessed to carry twin girls within me – and doubly blessed with their birth last year! So yes, I have been a full time mother for a little over a year now, focusing and nurturing our two daughters into happy little ladies of substance.

I am ready to get back to the drawing table with my self guide, it will not be an overnight project though work on it commences again next week  – I know many out there are dealing with the issues attached to being in a long distance relationship and so this book will be a perfect companion.  

If you are new to this series and would like a peek view click here for excerpts:


Thank you again for your patience and fabulous support! 

Have a joyful Sunday! 


Food for thought: Bible Bliss…

It may roar but in stillness it remains at home

It may roar but in stillness it remains at home

Hope you all had a glorious Christmas and are geared up for the New Year – 2013

The words below hit me like a ton of bricks just yesterday – the almighty presence of the Lord is forever around us, forever present and these verses just cemented my understanding of God and His unique ways…

(Please note I interchange God with Jehovah at times)

Jeremiah 5

(New Kings James Version)

Verse 22: Do you not fear Me?’ says the Lord. ‘Will you not tremble at My presence, Who have placed the sand as the bound of the sea, By a perpetual decree, that it cannot pass beyond it? And though its waves toss to and fro, Yet they cannot prevail; Though they roar, yet they cannot pass over it.

Verse 23: But this people has a defiant and rebellious heart;
They have revolted and departed.

Verse 24: They do not say in their heart, “Let us now fear the Lord our God, Who gives rain, both the former and the latter, in its season. He reserves for us the appointed weeks of the harvest.”

Verse 25: Your iniquities have turned these things away,
And your sins have withheld good from you.

(New Living Translation Version)

22 Have you no respect for me? Why don’t you tremble in my presence?
I, the LORD , define the ocean’s sandy shoreline
as an everlasting boundary that the waters cannot cross.
The waves may toss and roar,
but they can never pass the boundaries I set.

23 But my people have stubborn and rebellious hearts.
They have turned away and abandoned me.

24 They do not say from the heart,
`Let us live in awe of the LORD our God,
for he gives us rain each spring and fall,
assuring us of a harvest when the time is right.’

25 Your wickedness has deprived you of these wonderful blessings.
Your sin has robbed you of all these good things.

My notes: The Lord is mighty in all His ways. In this chapter of Jeremiah, God was reminding the Israelites about exactly who He is (not was) and his control over the universe we reside on comfortably and freely. He pressed for them to realise that He was the One who freed them from Egypt, separated the Red Sea for their safety and led them for 40 years through a scorching desert by day and a freezing cold desert by night. We cannot only remember Jehovah when we are going through the hard times – he appreciates our praise and worship when we are filled with joy.

He described his awesome power – Jehovah in doing this is showing us the abundance of His grace on our lives. We must remember that we are not here by accident – every step we take is ordained by Jehovah, we are allowed to be here because of Him. This very earth is His footstool. We need to begin to focus on his greatness in our lives, just the very fact of being alive is His mercy shown to us everyday we arise from bed. Be in awe of Him – and the order in which he has set the universe to respect our presence here on Earth.

The sea filled with endless gallons of water is bound by sand – commanded (perpetual decree) by the Lord of Hosts. This is astonishing – that for all the years that the Earth has existed – the sea is still in its designated place. The Sea may overflow on to land – or violently roar during storms against bulging rocks but when all is still it remains within its bounds. Isn’t this incredible! No human can manage such a creation as the sea – we just adjust to its vastness – build around it, use it for travel and feed on its inhabitants. But as for managing the sea and its operations – we are simply helpless – the Lord has sorted it all out for us!

An even greater creation is our bodies – functioning by the perpetual decree of the Lord – he has ordered each organ, each blood cell – each vessel to function together – as one to form an operational human body. Our bodies have the capabilities of healing itself – alerting us when extra help is required such as hunger pangs- Bear in mind that this same body survived for hundreds of years and I means hundreds. No organ has been changed or downgraded by Jehovah our God – we still possess the same powerful organs as Noah who lived till the very ripe age of 950 years (Genesis 9:29)!

After the great flood during the days of Noah, lifespan dramatically declined.

Could this be an example of God distancing Himself from us?

Most sceptics wonder ‘if there is a God why does He allow earthquakes, tsunamis to wipe us out’ – well check out verse 25 above – our sins, in fact our deliberate sins are pushing God further away from us – Jehovah is watching us turn away from Him and so turn away from His blessings. Jehovah is where our blessings lie – so if we move away from Him we loose His hold on us. This is an active choice we are making!

In our bid to be God-led individuals we need to draw God closer – much closer – be in awe of His glory – and appreciate His work on this earth for our benefit! He arranged the earth this way to accommodate us – He cares!

Just remember that Jehovah has maintained order in the universe by perpetual decree – an everlasting decree – a law that can never be broken accept by His own power. Therefore we should ask God to perpetually decree on our behalf in our lives- the spirit to seek His face more – prioritise Him and love him especially as He loved us first. We have had the best head-start ever!

This is my personal reflection on the verses above – I’ll love to know how you have interpreted it. Please send an email or drop a comment here!!!

(Long distance relationship series – still active😉👍)

♥ ℓavergnéaiko™

I am Back!!!

Heeeeey I am back – it has been a long hiatus for me and a very interesting one too – the long distance series will be revived and is first on my list —- I have so much to share with you all!

Thanks for your patience!!!

Love as deep as the Ocean!

Love as deep as the Ocean!




Hey all,

The Long distance series 2011 has not been forgotten nor ignored. It shall continue as promised. This blog is forever active although posts come at random intervals, I write when hit with an inspirational message though I tend to note my thoughts in my memo pad. Maybe I’ll condition myself to write straight σn too here, who knows!!!

Thanks for the support and loyal following!!! 🙂

The Long Distance Relationship Series “Oh my… are you in a long distance relationship too” Plans from afar – Excerpt!

Planning as sweet as honey!

Planning as sweet as honey!

Plans, ideas and innovation make the world go round and round, followed by the common belief that ‘a man without a plan is a man that will fail’ (this also applies equally to women).  If there is an absence of a meaningful plan regarding life, one will eventually float aimlessly through the days of their lives instead of investing time and effort to straighten their somewhat curved path, be it within the confines of their office or home.   A mundane life is not a fulfilled one – routine is alien to aspirations and passion, in fact routine can dull the colourful passion you once enjoyed exploring within your mind.

The above  applies equally to your LDR relationship, if you allow the freshness of your relationship to be overwhelmed with unexciting conversations and behaviours there will be an avoidance to devote time to hearty discussions centred on the aspirations of the relationship.

I searched for the definition of the word ‘plan‘ on a website called Dictionary.com and I was drawn immediately to the second definition – a plan is: a design or scheme of arrangement – and this is the definition I will apply throughout…

Read more: Long Distance Relationship Series Guide coming soon!

♥ ℓavergnéaiko™

He is there and i’m here

The Long Distance Relationship Series “Oh my…are you in a long distance relationship too” Arguments -Excerpt!

As human beings we feed on the premise of relationships – every part of our lives is dominated by one relationship or the other.  We form relationships on so many levels and invest our emotions and behaviours in different degrees to each existing association.  However there is one kind of relationship that calls for more than just mere emotions and behaviours, one that possess many layers and tugs are all areas of ones being – a loving relationship between a man and woman.  Once such a relationship is formed there is a clouded desire for everything to be perfect and a number one need for togetherness.

I found myself in a blissful relationship, and it was torn away from me by distance, I use the word torn not to be extreme but to describe exactly how I felt when the discussion arose and decisions were made back in 2010.  I am in no way claiming to be a LDR guru but I have experienced it first hand and can say that it was interestingly challenging when disagreements surfaced.

Individuals involved in a LDR must make room for issues to be addressed frequently; it is very dangerous to ignore pressing issues that naturally arise because of distance…

Read more: Long Distance Relationship Series Guide coming soon!

♥ ℓä̤̣̇vergnéä̤̣̇iko™