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I have decided to use my blog as a temporary space for my digital stationary/home decor business – AikoCreates (till my website is complete) , I started officially in May 2015.

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Also I also failed to inform you all (apologies) that my husband and I were blessed with twin girls in July 2014 – so life has been extremely busy!

I felt inspired last night and designed a lovely wallpaper for you to download for free – daily inspiration and appreciation for all those who have supported both my blog and AikoCreates!

Just ‘save image’ as you usually would and set as wallpaper!


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 The Antidotal Wisdom Age – part 2

  
I came across an amazing proverb – it strummed all the right keys within me and I immediately posted it on @NigerianProverb (Twitter)!

Here it is: 

Until the lion tells his side of the story, the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter #Zimbabwe

During times of reflection we sometimes wonder about the question marks weighing heavily over certain relationships in our lives – you then find yourself asking  “what really happened? How did it end up like this? Was there something I could have done to avoid the issue? Should I just tell everyone my truth and what really occurred? Maybe perceptions will shift in my favour???

At times the individuals in our lives are not ready or in most cases are not prepared to give an ear to the raw unadulterated truth – they either refuse to give you an audience or engineer a smear campaign against you resulting in your attempts to ‘put things right’ being automatically classified as ‘meaningless’.  As tempting as it may be – avoid the ‘just speak’ attitude – where it is evident that your words will be deemed as worthless, especially in the presence of the wrong crowd (who may be aware of bits and pieces of your story but not the full extent) – assess every situation wisely before laying down your bow and arrows, wasted careless words are powerful too. 

Wasted careless words are powerful too!
LavergneAiko™

I believe wisdom is an individualistic gift – personalised for you by the Most High. Therefore be wise in your approach to matters that call for your truth – especially in matters where your truth will turn around months or even decades of misunderstanding and discontent. Patiently watch for the opportunity that may have the potential to wipe the slate clean and at the same time eliminate you from further anguish!

However always keep this thought close – your truth may not be the truth they want to hear!  Do not blow the truth up by revealing it in a bid to negatively affect another – instead figure out avenues that will potentially benefit the parties involved.  It may seem like a difficult task but with pure good intentions all will come together as destined and seamlessly fall into order. 

Life will always allow for one to express themselves where there has been no vacuum for such expression in the past! This life is one of questions and answers and one day there will be a full on search for the whys, how’s and when’s – leading all concerned to your front door by way of providence. 

Fragments of the truth told to many ears lead to a story with unavoidable gaps – which in turn leads to ‘story-fillers’ (gossips)

So always keep the above quote in mind “Until the lion tells his side of the story, the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter” –  yes they presently feel content and in this blinded sense of relief they confuse those around them with their infectious feeling of triumph against you – BUT – you have your power, your weapon which is your truth! The truth finds it extremely difficult to hide for too long – it cannot stand still it yearns for freedom. So there may be times you feel to release parts or all of the truth to fellow ears – though you must be careful! Fragments of the truth told to many ears lead to a story with unavoidable gaps – which in turn leads to ‘story-fillers’ (gossips) who will maximise the opportunities before them to add salt and pepper to the wound. 

you have your power, your weapon which is your truth! The truth finds it extremely difficult to hide for too long – it cannot stand still it yearns for freedom

So in closing I leave you with this: keep your truth in an airtight jar (your mind) and do not allow delay to distort your focus or cause you to become embittered in harbouring a truth you will eventually reveal. 

The truth will always set itself free LavergneAiko™

The Antidotal Wisdom Age

Wisdom, motivational and perceived idealism dominate my Instagram, Facebook and Twitter timelines by way of quotes and advice.

Personally I enjoy it all – the variety offered by social media posts! I prefer to see words that have the affect of pushing me in the direction of reflecting positively over negative energies attached to certain instances that occur or the display of beautiful scenic photos taken of places around the world (especially as I am not a very good tourist lol) than mere ‘selfies’ and a constant show of items owned (materialism)…*yawns*😴

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At times events occur in life and all it takes is a look at one of my timelines and there it is a quote I can relate to word for word. It is almost too much of a coincidence and at the same time therapeutic. Hence, in a bid to not forget such powerful words in a rush I save the image bearing the quote, constantly requiring me to delete applications from my smartphone. As of today images mostly wisdom quotes take up a staggering 2.2gb of my phone memory *eek* 😣

Life is shrouded in mystery – the most mysterious is interaction with fellow human beings of which most of my favourite quotes relate too.

My top 5 wisdom filled quotes so far:

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This hit me like a ton of bricks after having a very deep conversation with my husband, I hopped onto Instagram and there is was – ready for my double tap!

I had just revealed to my better half how bruised I was when I reflected on recent occurrences in my life and he instilled the most comforting words in me. In summary he advised me not to expect much from an individual who has already shown their true colours – he further stated that once you understand the behaviours and attitudes of people then expectations should equalise or better still no expectations should exist at all!

With expectations extremely low or in extreme cases non-existent there will be no space within you for anger and hurt when they decide to reveal their colours again – it will all of a sudden become an easy task to accept them for who they really are and the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life!

…the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life! – LavergneAiko™

I must admit it was a lot to swallow but the truth at its best always makes one shiver – having high expectations of any individual especially one who has given you a reason to deal with them on a ‘once bitten, twice shy’ basis, should not have additional expectations laid on their shoulders by you, in a twisted way it is pretty unfair for that individual – it is also a waste of resources and most precious of all – your time.

If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed – Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

A life that is burdened with expectations is a heavy life. Its fruit is sorrow and disappointment -DougLas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

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Everyone always has an opinion – be it asked for or just thrown in your face. The way I deal with such people who are constantly over-opinionated about my life is to ignore them and allow their words to float far far away from my consciousness – and into a pile of waste where their words will feel a little more comfortable. This way ensures that the power of their words are diminished immediately and I am not distracted from the path God has laid me on.

Accepting uninvited opinions especially from individuals who in actuality are quite unconcerned about your wellbeing – is similar to allowing a cobra to sink its venomous teeth into your forearm because it asked you ever so nicely for your permission! Once the venom hits you internally you are the one to deal with the results of your stupidity not the culprit – same goes for careless opinions, accepting them only turns your life upside down not theirs. Remember an opinion is only “a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty” (dictionary.com) so imagine accepting such risky information from just any person *disaster* – if opinions must be given you should entrust such privileges only to persons in your life who you trust and believe their intentions are in the right place!

Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – LavergneAiko™

You cannot filter another’s mouth – but you can definitely filter how you receive the information shared. Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – remember that! Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course!

Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course! – Lavergneaiko™

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Keeping your intentions and thoughts towards others pure assists greatly in creating a beautiful heart within you! No one is perfect – but we must not fall behind the screens of jealousy and envy, or living in the hope of seeing another not prosper. Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness.

Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness – LavergneAiko™

Money may have the capability to maintain you physically for the outside eye to feast on – however it is unable to penetrate and sustain our internal being when compared to a good sense of being linked to having good intentions for others. Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – powerful stuff!

Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – LavergneAiko™

When one possesses a beautiful heart life becomes even more colourful and exciting, their outer being positively radiates what they feel within themselves. Sharing in another’s happiness will excite you and in the same breathe open doors for the receiving of your own specialised blessings from above.

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind – Anon

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This makes for a perfect analogy! If flowers competed with their budding neighbours we would be forced to experience very pitiful looking flowerbeds. The aroma, the collaboration of vivid colours would all be poisoned by the struggle leaving only a few to rise and the majority to wither away. A flower must concentrate wholly on its development to radiate and at the same time stay healthy and supportive as to not contaminate and unbalance its neighbours. This is teamwork at its best during the winter months – resulting in united beauty in the summer!

We as humans need to embrace such principles – if you are competing with an individual your attention is automatically divided between yourself and this person – your true potential will always remain overshadowed by what the next person is doing. You are unable to blossom and in doing so attempt to distract others around you. A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

Do not contaminate yourself and your surroundings with a spirit of competition – you loose out on so much personal and spiritual growth and in turn become resentful when the individual you consider a rival continuously succeeds in life while you stand in the sidelines plotting your next unsuccessful move.

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally -LavergneAiko™

We must remember that this earth will fade away and our ultimate goal is meeting God one on one – utilise your energies ensuring both you and your fellow person are not blown away like chaff in the wind. I believe that this goal is our number one priority when compared to what you can gain on earth involving sacrificing your inner peace to maintain the results.

Indeed their prosperity is not in their hand; The counsel of the wicked is far from me.

They are like straw before the wind, And like chaff that a storm carries away. (Job 21:16, 18 NKJV)

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally!

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Friendship is not a numbers game – one could have 50 friends and feel like the loneliest person alive or have relationships dating back 50 years and have absolutely nothing to show.

Friendship is not an easy title to bestow on a person based on numbers – I remember posting a comment under a youtube video discussing on the topic of friendship (posted below).

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In recent times I have noticed a very calculated display of loyalty that continues to baffle me to the bones. Loyalty is a demonstration of fidelity to a person, the following falls under the umbrella of fidelity:

a. Attachment
b. Dependability
c. Faith
d. Integrity
e. Reliability
f. True – heartedness
g. Trustworthiness

The above listed may overlap in meaning, however my aim is to bring to light the heavy duty nature of loyalty – it is not as subtle as most consider it.

…the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise – LavergneAiko™

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life. If one is unable to provide their friend with support and encouragement during the good times of their lives and instead takes up residence in the background, fails to share in one’s happiness or totally shade the joy in a friend’s life – the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise.

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life – LavergneAiko™

Another form of an individual’s lack of loyalty is the typical – “you were not here for me during the times I needed you the most” (the bad times). As this is the most common and experienced episodes of friendship breakdown – I will not elaborate on it further.

Know your friends not by their numbers but by the value you both as a team impact on each other’s lives – LavergneAiko™

Dangle the word ‘friend’ loosely – individuals may even go as far to manipulate you with the fact they have known you for x amount of years therefore their behaviour tallies up – or in their small minds they have a warped belief that their loyalty still stands after their assistance through your bad times so why should their absence during the good times make a difference. Yes we live in the strangest of times.

You cannot force anyone to care about you – LavergneAiko™

Know your friends not by their numbers or accumulation of years but by the value you both as a team have impacted on each other’s lives.

A Fierce word!

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“If I were in your shoes, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God. After all, he’s famous for great and unexpected acts; there’s no end to his surprises. He gives rain, for instance, across the wide earth, sends water to irrigate the fields. He raises up the down-and-out, gives firm footing to those sinking in grief. He aborts the schemes of conniving crooks, so that none of their plots come to term. He catches the know-it-alls in their conspiracies— all that intricate intrigue swept out with the trash! Suddenly they’re disoriented, plunged into darkness; they can’t see to put one foot in front of the other. But the downtrodden are saved by God, saved from the murderous plots, saved from the iron fist. And so the poor continue to hope, while injustice is bound and gagged. (Job 5:8-16 MSG)

This has to be the most amazing love letter to us from God Almighty

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How blessed is God! And what a blessing he is! He’s the Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in him. Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his beloved Son. Because of the sacrifice of the Messiah, his blood poured out on the altar of the Cross, we’re a free people—free of penalties and punishments chalked up by all our misdeeds. And not just barely free, either. Abundantly free! He thought of everything, provided for everything we could possibly need, letting us in on the plans he took such delight in making. He set it all out before us in Christ, a long-range plan in which everything would be brought together and summed up in him, everything in deepest heaven, everything on planet earth. It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone. It’s in Christ that you, once you heard the truth and believed it (this Message of your salvation), found yourselves home free—signed, sealed, and delivered by the Holy Spirit. This signet from God is the first installment on what’s coming, a reminder that we’ll get everything God has planned for us, a praising and glorious life. (Ephesians 1:3-14 MSG)

*just had to share- sink in the promises of our Lord and peace of the Lord will consume all that troubles you*

Stop worrying: The reality of worrying!

Worrying is not faith.

Sometimes I find myself lost in relentless worry – especially about things that are not even realistically possible – can you imagine the painful experience of worrying about nothing! It hurts the mind!

I now regard worry as a naïve form of procrastination – especially when one worries about something or someone they have no business with – isn’t that just a pure waste of useful time.

Worrying can really choke the life out of an individual – and lead on to very unfair and selfish thoughts. Society has conditioned us to believe that worry is a necessary tool in life – for instance television adverts that chant on about sickness and reasons why we must become obsessed with the tiniest of details.

A common UK message via advertising on television- “1 in 4 of you will be diagnosed with cancer.” What a shock right? In the middle of watching your favourite tv show and this government message is delivered! 10 seconds of a message about cancer has the power to lead an individual into an array of different thoughts, possibilities and what if’s. Suddenly every body pain experienced may in your mind be linked to cancer and obviously linked to that morbid advert. The vicious cycle of worrying begins…just imagine having such an advert shown 7 to 10 times a day.

My reaction to such messages these days – is an instant rejection of the words spoken – and we should all react in this way to such negativity.

I have come to realise that worrying “does not empty tomorrow of its troubles – it empties today of its strength” (anon)

Why waste valuable time holding on to a non-existent tomorrow – all we have is today – today is our gift and we must learn to appreciate it. The new gift of life is our ‘next day’ – it is new so why worry so much about it – it has not even had time to evolve yet and we are busy worrying about it.

I write this piece as a therapy to myself as well as to you – if worrying is holding you back in life – just let go and live that joyous life Jehovah has intended for us. Remember that “I (you) can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

Let’s live our days in satisfaction and enjoyment – knowing that we have been gifted another day to live!

My personal solutions

    1. write down my fears/worries (from this I define which issue I can deal with now or ones that are unrealistic)
    2. Talk about my issues (I know it may seem easier said than done – but this really helps)
    3. Read the Word of God – our comfort

God bless & Stay inspired!

♥ ℓavergnéaiko™

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Hey all,

The Long distance series 2011 has not been forgotten nor ignored. It shall continue as promised. This blog is forever active although posts come at random intervals, I write when hit with an inspirational message though I tend to note my thoughts in my memo pad. Maybe I’ll condition myself to write straight σn too here, who knows!!!

Thanks for the support and loyal following!!! 🙂