Avenue of Release (one) – Purity 

QUICKNOTE: I made a decision for ME and one that could ultimately change everything – however there is always a need for self reflection and healing in life especially where one’s position has drastically changed in a few years  – and if during times of healing and soul searching, dead ends break off then we must give a big cheer to results 🙂

AVENUE OF RELEASE (one) – Purity 

She knows the Divine one is watching intently – knowing her heart is pure and most importantly always has been – playing with purity of another is a radical move,  dangerous and unfair.  

even if all she has before her feet are breadcrumbs she will turn it into a royal feast. 

The universe hears the moans of the true hearted individual –  it comforts her and ensures her that all will be well! 

The heavens open up for her and release tools of survival – she will not be mocked or fooled around – nor will she deal with the actions of a plagued human being any longer than she has too! 

She is equipped to win and so she will – even if all she has before her feet are breadcrumbs she will turn it into a royal feast.  

she nurtures an active conscience, she has no reason to offend the universe

If water is all she needs today – it will flow endlessly for her use 
Her heart keeps the door of rejuvenation open, prepared and patient! Her cries are heard the moment tears detach from the duct – she is cared for and clothed in compassion – she cannot be torn down or raped of peace 

Her heart keeps the door of rejuvenation open, prepared and patient!

Her healing is plentiful, joyous and enabled, she feels it deep within her BUT she needs time to bond with it, bond with herself, bond with life again. 

She will triumph – why? – she nurtures an active conscience, she has no reason to offend the universe…

***Update*** Long Distance Relationship series 

  
Hi all,
I know it has taken a while since I announced the compliation of my popular Long Distance Relationship series into a mini self guide – I do however have a valid reason! 

In between promising to release a mini guide and now, I was blessed to carry twin girls within me – and doubly blessed with their birth last year! So yes, I have been a full time mother for a little over a year now, focusing and nurturing our two daughters into happy little ladies of substance.

I am ready to get back to the drawing table with my self guide, it will not be an overnight project though work on it commences again next week  – I know many out there are dealing with the issues attached to being in a long distance relationship and so this book will be a perfect companion.  

If you are new to this series and would like a peek view click here for excerpts:

https://lavergneaiko.wordpress.com/the-long-distance-relationship-series/

Thank you again for your patience and fabulous support! 

Have a joyful Sunday! 

 The Antidotal Wisdom Age – part 2

  
I came across an amazing proverb – it strummed all the right keys within me and I immediately posted it on @NigerianProverb (Twitter)!

Here it is: 

Until the lion tells his side of the story, the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter #Zimbabwe

During times of reflection we sometimes wonder about the question marks weighing heavily over certain relationships in our lives – you then find yourself asking  “what really happened? How did it end up like this? Was there something I could have done to avoid the issue? Should I just tell everyone my truth and what really occurred? Maybe perceptions will shift in my favour???

At times the individuals in our lives are not ready or in most cases are not prepared to give an ear to the raw unadulterated truth – they either refuse to give you an audience or engineer a smear campaign against you resulting in your attempts to ‘put things right’ being automatically classified as ‘meaningless’.  As tempting as it may be – avoid the ‘just speak’ attitude – where it is evident that your words will be deemed as worthless, especially in the presence of the wrong crowd (who may be aware of bits and pieces of your story but not the full extent) – assess every situation wisely before laying down your bow and arrows, wasted careless words are powerful too. 

Wasted careless words are powerful too!
LavergneAiko™

I believe wisdom is an individualistic gift – personalised for you by the Most High. Therefore be wise in your approach to matters that call for your truth – especially in matters where your truth will turn around months or even decades of misunderstanding and discontent. Patiently watch for the opportunity that may have the potential to wipe the slate clean and at the same time eliminate you from further anguish!

However always keep this thought close – your truth may not be the truth they want to hear!  Do not blow the truth up by revealing it in a bid to negatively affect another – instead figure out avenues that will potentially benefit the parties involved.  It may seem like a difficult task but with pure good intentions all will come together as destined and seamlessly fall into order. 

Life will always allow for one to express themselves where there has been no vacuum for such expression in the past! This life is one of questions and answers and one day there will be a full on search for the whys, how’s and when’s – leading all concerned to your front door by way of providence. 

Fragments of the truth told to many ears lead to a story with unavoidable gaps – which in turn leads to ‘story-fillers’ (gossips)

So always keep the above quote in mind “Until the lion tells his side of the story, the tale of the hunt will always glorify the hunter” –  yes they presently feel content and in this blinded sense of relief they confuse those around them with their infectious feeling of triumph against you – BUT – you have your power, your weapon which is your truth! The truth finds it extremely difficult to hide for too long – it cannot stand still it yearns for freedom. So there may be times you feel to release parts or all of the truth to fellow ears – though you must be careful! Fragments of the truth told to many ears lead to a story with unavoidable gaps – which in turn leads to ‘story-fillers’ (gossips) who will maximise the opportunities before them to add salt and pepper to the wound. 

you have your power, your weapon which is your truth! The truth finds it extremely difficult to hide for too long – it cannot stand still it yearns for freedom

So in closing I leave you with this: keep your truth in an airtight jar (your mind) and do not allow delay to distort your focus or cause you to become embittered in harbouring a truth you will eventually reveal. 

The truth will always set itself free LavergneAiko™

Random Post – The Beauty of Motherhood!

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There is no better feeling then being a mother! The responsibility placed on us as mothers adds so much depth and excitement to a life so centralised on self – then all of a sudden (well after nine miraculous months) someone matters so much that your mind is constantly clouded with endless possibilities of what you can do to satisfy this beautiful little person who depends 100% on you.

God chooses wisely – some abuse this blessing while others live for it – cherish it like their very own lifeline. God did not mistakenly place us in this position of influence – NO – we are handpicked and our children are a direct reflection of the glory of God in our life.

Every morning * smiles from these innocent souls! How gratifying is such – how cleansing it is to know that each morning your star will smile up at you – mother! No blemish…mornings are that more important – each day a developmental milestone for both mother and child

As a mother something changes within you – all of a sudden you see the world as a place to protect baby from – all of a sudden you feel like a superhero. The bad elements you nurtured within you are somehow burdensome – you want to detox your life of the meaningless and include the meaningful – all of a sudden your future counts – you aim to make life a comfy bed of roses for your child – you are motivated by the purest love to cater to your baby’s innocent little being.

You no longer want to fight, you no longer want to feel distressed – you cannot be bothered to hold that grudge – you really have no time to deal with opinions of all – you have no energy to invest in pretence – you just want your time to be renewed and used wisely to inspire your child

Motherhood is beautiful – a beauty to cherish…a unique jewel to keep safe from the elements

Becoming a mother is a life changing event – a duty post with no expiry date – you will always be mother in the present and when your time is up on this earth * you are still Mother…

Stay blessed & inspired

♥ ℓavergnéaiko™

Tool up for 2015 and beyond…

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The New Year 2015 is fast approaching, we are in fact just hours away! Use today, New Years Eve (NYE) to discover vital tools for a new year better than the last and a year of lasting growth

This NYE load up your essentials and head into 2015 equipped…

1) Pack, and I mean PACK a heavy duffle bag of forgiveness – people will continue to break our hearts and do the unexpected! The way we deal with each disappointment depends heavily on our ability to forgive – so keep forgiveness as close as ever. Make it a duty to not hold grudges – move on as swiftly as the wind!

The way we deal with each disappointment depends heavily on our ability to forgive

2) Fold up your sheets of compassion and store them deep within you – the world is in a constant state that requires helping hands at all time – suffering will not just disappear with the coming of a new year! The evolution of media though awesome in one respect has worked against us in another – desensitising the masses! We see so much pain and suffering everyday (news and adverts) that we somehow close up! Allow fresh compassion to flow again – joining a local charity or outreach may just do the trick

3) Load up on tons of energetic love that will transcend any situation you are forced to deal with – love that will reach those who require it and mend bridges that have previously been burnt. As Pheadra Parks recently stated “Love is a verb not a noun” – therefore action is required.

4) Clear space for the element of surprise – do not allow anything or anyone to truly shock you! Take everything with a certain ease, calmness is health in small doses – remember that

calmness is health in small doses

5) Channel up courage – courage to rock your world with the unthinkable- what you thought you could never achieve add it to your bucket list!

6) Pressure yourself with commitment – make your ideas count – focus on what matters and eliminate procrastination from all you do. Procrastination is a thief – close your doors and lock up really tight when facing procrastination head on.

Procrastination is a thief

7) Double dose on joy – this life is too tight for bouts of unhappiness – see God in all that happens- see Him in all you do- joy is untouchable when it is stored within you in great measures

joy is untouchable when it is stored within you in great measures

8) Train yourself in selectiveness – an attitude of preserving what is necessary to your growth as a person and dismissing with immediate effect sources that intend to tear you down! It is not every word spoken to you that must be sealed and signed by your acceptance – listening does not necessarily require you accepting what you have heard! Remember that

It is not every word spoken to you that must be sealed and signed by your acceptance

9) Let go of expectations – do not lay 100% trust in the hands of anything or anyone – read my previous post here “is trust a curse”. Trust is a matter of who deserves it – simple truth!

10) Increase your need for enrichment- look after the body God has blessed you with – deal with it as you would your best diamond piece – fill it with food for the soul as well as nourishment for the physical – once your soul is enriched everything including your health will fall in perfect harmony

11) Fight for what is right – no more straddling the fence wondering who’s opinion matters. Take your life at the horns – decide what is right for you and your loved ones. Never compromise, never walk on eggshells.

12) Fill your suitcase with desires – find out what excites you, research on a hobby you have admired for a while – find that zumba class you have been avoiding for months, step out in your dancing shoes and learn how to wiggle and shake your body at a Salsa class – tickle that part of you that has remained dormant! If you are a 49 year old housewife and love playing computer games – go and buy yourself a console… Why not?

13) Dress yourself in self love – stand out, accentuate what you love the most about yourself! No more hiding behind the big bad wolf in your life – stand bold! The gift of life was placed firmly at your feet – rip it open and dive in with both hands

14) Enjoy your own company, appreciate time alone to think things through! Company all the time can cause a deafening of your inner most voice! Clear your space, free up social time and deal with harmonising with who you really are

Clear your space, free up social time and deal with harmonising with who you really are

15) Armour yourself in godliness – we are not aware of what the future holds – but with God all things are possible! Faith in the unknown is exactly what our tomorrows are made of – shield yourself with God’s majesty, His comfort and best of all His peace – do not take God for granted – this world is not a huge playground as presumed!

Faith in the unknown is exactly what our tomorrows are made of

16) Flourish in kindness, be gentle to others! Try not to invalidate another’s feelings and be open to the mistakes of your fellow person without judging them. Kindness shows all over ones face – who needs a cosmetic company’s youth cream when you can just be kind hearted and glow!

17) Wrap yourself in resilience – do not change negatively to deal with negativity – why bury the goodness within you to fight the bitterness of another – it is a loosing battle and you will hurt more than ever! Stay true to yourself! Never settle

The above are my personal resolutions for 2015, though not an exhaustive list- I am sure many will relate! Copy and paste this for anyone you feel needs to read this

God bless and have an awesome 2015!!!

Disrespect who?

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Disrespect slowly but surely closes the window to the heart

Disrespect does not bring down strongholds it raises them

Disrespect turns the humble to rubble and the strong to dust

Disrespect wipes away the tiniest glimmers of shared hope

Disrespect harms the purest of intentions and drags around the bones of goodwill

Disrespect feasts on the mind of its target – invading areas of self worth

Disrespect lingers like rotten food – slowly deteriorating the inner beings of self

Disrespect widens the gap between lovers and weakens bonds of steel

Disrespect tears down plans for the future and tramples on the present

Disrespect knows no bound – its sting is deadly

Disrespect mocks the innocent soul and feeds the egotistical spirit

Disrespect blinds itself to the obvious good and sees only darkness in places where goodness reigns

Disrespect enjoys the tears and weaknesses of its victims

Disrespect digs its sharpened nails into the root of individuals

Disrespect knows no peace and resides on shaky waters

Disrespect will never change its colours…its spots will remain the same!

Disrespect revises the past and attacks all possibilities

Disrespect is blind to self – playing the harp of victimisation and blaming others for its failures

Disrespect voids feelings and in turn regulates hate

Disrespect attempts to build a home and with the same hands demolishes it

Disrespect does not value mistakes made – instead it ridicules

Disrespect transforms saints to sinners

A note:
*be kind to people it is a necessary good – perfection to impress others is not our goal – it is impossible to perfect any flaw in a fellow human being. Tearing another person down is a deliberate act to seek out perfection in them for selfish reasons such as “oh you really annoy me when…” – to be quite frank, perfection is an area we will never truly understand!

The Antidotal Wisdom Age

Wisdom, motivational and perceived idealism dominate my Instagram, Facebook and Twitter timelines by way of quotes and advice.

Personally I enjoy it all – the variety offered by social media posts! I prefer to see words that have the affect of pushing me in the direction of reflecting positively over negative energies attached to certain instances that occur or the display of beautiful scenic photos taken of places around the world (especially as I am not a very good tourist lol) than mere ‘selfies’ and a constant show of items owned (materialism)…*yawns*😴

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At times events occur in life and all it takes is a look at one of my timelines and there it is a quote I can relate to word for word. It is almost too much of a coincidence and at the same time therapeutic. Hence, in a bid to not forget such powerful words in a rush I save the image bearing the quote, constantly requiring me to delete applications from my smartphone. As of today images mostly wisdom quotes take up a staggering 2.2gb of my phone memory *eek* 😣

Life is shrouded in mystery – the most mysterious is interaction with fellow human beings of which most of my favourite quotes relate too.

My top 5 wisdom filled quotes so far:

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This hit me like a ton of bricks after having a very deep conversation with my husband, I hopped onto Instagram and there is was – ready for my double tap!

I had just revealed to my better half how bruised I was when I reflected on recent occurrences in my life and he instilled the most comforting words in me. In summary he advised me not to expect much from an individual who has already shown their true colours – he further stated that once you understand the behaviours and attitudes of people then expectations should equalise or better still no expectations should exist at all!

With expectations extremely low or in extreme cases non-existent there will be no space within you for anger and hurt when they decide to reveal their colours again – it will all of a sudden become an easy task to accept them for who they really are and the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life!

…the ball is in your court to continue to dine with them or leave them at the table of life! – LavergneAiko™

I must admit it was a lot to swallow but the truth at its best always makes one shiver – having high expectations of any individual especially one who has given you a reason to deal with them on a ‘once bitten, twice shy’ basis, should not have additional expectations laid on their shoulders by you, in a twisted way it is pretty unfair for that individual – it is also a waste of resources and most precious of all – your time.

If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed – Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

A life that is burdened with expectations is a heavy life. Its fruit is sorrow and disappointment -DougLas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

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Everyone always has an opinion – be it asked for or just thrown in your face. The way I deal with such people who are constantly over-opinionated about my life is to ignore them and allow their words to float far far away from my consciousness – and into a pile of waste where their words will feel a little more comfortable. This way ensures that the power of their words are diminished immediately and I am not distracted from the path God has laid me on.

Accepting uninvited opinions especially from individuals who in actuality are quite unconcerned about your wellbeing – is similar to allowing a cobra to sink its venomous teeth into your forearm because it asked you ever so nicely for your permission! Once the venom hits you internally you are the one to deal with the results of your stupidity not the culprit – same goes for careless opinions, accepting them only turns your life upside down not theirs. Remember an opinion is only “a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty” (dictionary.com) so imagine accepting such risky information from just any person *disaster* – if opinions must be given you should entrust such privileges only to persons in your life who you trust and believe their intentions are in the right place!

Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – LavergneAiko™

You cannot filter another’s mouth – but you can definitely filter how you receive the information shared. Opinions are dismissible as well as the giver of the opinion – remember that! Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course!

Never allow anyone’s opinion rock you of your course! – Lavergneaiko™

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Keeping your intentions and thoughts towards others pure assists greatly in creating a beautiful heart within you! No one is perfect – but we must not fall behind the screens of jealousy and envy, or living in the hope of seeing another not prosper. Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness.

Mental states centred on the fall of others and a restraining of oneself from rejoicing with another will slowly chip away at your inner being and change every beautiful thing that you possessed into ugliness – LavergneAiko™

Money may have the capability to maintain you physically for the outside eye to feast on – however it is unable to penetrate and sustain our internal being when compared to a good sense of being linked to having good intentions for others. Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – powerful stuff!

Remember God Almighty has a deeper interest in the real objective of our hearts – what it entertains and delights in – LavergneAiko™

When one possesses a beautiful heart life becomes even more colourful and exciting, their outer being positively radiates what they feel within themselves. Sharing in another’s happiness will excite you and in the same breathe open doors for the receiving of your own specialised blessings from above.

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind – Anon

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This makes for a perfect analogy! If flowers competed with their budding neighbours we would be forced to experience very pitiful looking flowerbeds. The aroma, the collaboration of vivid colours would all be poisoned by the struggle leaving only a few to rise and the majority to wither away. A flower must concentrate wholly on its development to radiate and at the same time stay healthy and supportive as to not contaminate and unbalance its neighbours. This is teamwork at its best during the winter months – resulting in united beauty in the summer!

We as humans need to embrace such principles – if you are competing with an individual your attention is automatically divided between yourself and this person – your true potential will always remain overshadowed by what the next person is doing. You are unable to blossom and in doing so attempt to distract others around you. A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

A competitive person stands out like a sore thumb – it is almost impossible to conceal such an aggressive trait amongst peers!

Do not contaminate yourself and your surroundings with a spirit of competition – you loose out on so much personal and spiritual growth and in turn become resentful when the individual you consider a rival continuously succeeds in life while you stand in the sidelines plotting your next unsuccessful move.

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally -LavergneAiko™

We must remember that this earth will fade away and our ultimate goal is meeting God one on one – utilise your energies ensuring both you and your fellow person are not blown away like chaff in the wind. I believe that this goal is our number one priority when compared to what you can gain on earth involving sacrificing your inner peace to maintain the results.

Indeed their prosperity is not in their hand; The counsel of the wicked is far from me.

They are like straw before the wind, And like chaff that a storm carries away. (Job 21:16, 18 NKJV)

Do not waste expensive time on earth in combat instead focus your energies on nurturing a beautiful heart, invest internally!

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Friendship is not a numbers game – one could have 50 friends and feel like the loneliest person alive or have relationships dating back 50 years and have absolutely nothing to show.

Friendship is not an easy title to bestow on a person based on numbers – I remember posting a comment under a youtube video discussing on the topic of friendship (posted below).

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In recent times I have noticed a very calculated display of loyalty that continues to baffle me to the bones. Loyalty is a demonstration of fidelity to a person, the following falls under the umbrella of fidelity:

a. Attachment
b. Dependability
c. Faith
d. Integrity
e. Reliability
f. True – heartedness
g. Trustworthiness

The above listed may overlap in meaning, however my aim is to bring to light the heavy duty nature of loyalty – it is not as subtle as most consider it.

…the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise – LavergneAiko™

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life. If one is unable to provide their friend with support and encouragement during the good times of their lives and instead takes up residence in the background, fails to share in one’s happiness or totally shade the joy in a friend’s life – the essence of loyalty is completely diminished on their part and the title of a ‘friend’ is only a disguise.

Loyalty is not only an expression of support during the bad times of your friend’s life – there must be an even more enhanced support system even during the good/best times of their life – LavergneAiko™

Another form of an individual’s lack of loyalty is the typical – “you were not here for me during the times I needed you the most” (the bad times). As this is the most common and experienced episodes of friendship breakdown – I will not elaborate on it further.

Know your friends not by their numbers but by the value you both as a team impact on each other’s lives – LavergneAiko™

Dangle the word ‘friend’ loosely – individuals may even go as far to manipulate you with the fact they have known you for x amount of years therefore their behaviour tallies up – or in their small minds they have a warped belief that their loyalty still stands after their assistance through your bad times so why should their absence during the good times make a difference. Yes we live in the strangest of times.

You cannot force anyone to care about you – LavergneAiko™

Know your friends not by their numbers or accumulation of years but by the value you both as a team have impacted on each other’s lives.